“Do you want to stay the night? Doesn’t mean we’re bound for life.”
Call me naive and old fashioned, but I was aghast. Is this the message our culture is sending out to young men and women across the world?! Assuming staying the night is insinuating sex (I think we call all agree this is a legitimate assumption), are we really cheapening sex to this? Is sex really to be labeled as nothing more than this idea of a simple pleasurable act with no lifelong significance? I’m sorry, despite the fact that I may not be married or even in a serious relationship, that is SO WRONG.
Sex, to me, is the most intimate physical act that a man and woman can engage in. Degrading sex to some more or less meaningless night of pleasure and experimentation is so ruinous.
In my life, I have on more than one occasion explained to non-Christian friends the reason I believe in abstinence and waiting for marriage. I have many a time explained the significance and meaning behind my purity ring I wear on my ring finger reading, “TRUE LOVE WAITS.”
Being a woman myself I feel I can most intimately talk to girls about this subject. Ladies, sex can be a beautiful thing when in the context that God created it for. I personally am saving myself because I long for the day when I can present myself as clean and pure to my husband. Having been with no other man on the face of this earth, I can give my husband, the man I love, the dazzling gift of whole self. I so look forward to saying the words, “I saved myself, all these years, only for you.” By keeping myself pure for my husband I am showing my love for him long before we’ve even met. I want sex to be something I share with only ONE person in the whole wide world. In the entire universe, my husband will be the only man to have that part of me…
How breathtakingly beautiful that thought is to me.
How dare the culture we live in mar the loveliness of sex and marriage with some perverted thinking of selfish, fleeting pleasure. Sex is not without consequences… and I’m not just talking STDs and babies here. When you have sex with someone you are giving them a piece of yourself. The Bible describes sex as the becoming “one flesh” (Genesis 2:24). The Bible talks even more significantly about how sexual immorality, lust, and sexual impurity can destroy lives. Sex is not something to EVER be taken lightly.
Sex, when in the context of marriage as God created it to be is the ultimate joining together of a husband and wife. Sex is the joining of body, mind and spirit. In the Old Testament sex was viewed as a way "to know" (a husband or wife). Without the Godly dimension of marriage, sex loses part of its meaning and purpose. When you keep your body as a gift first to God and then to your husband, only then can truly experience the true wonderment of this inexplicable joining.
In 2010, I made a written commitment to purity, to save myself in order to honor God, and one day bless my husband. Purity is a daily struggle, something I must make a regular, conscious effort to maintain because the Bible tells us even our thoughts are dangerous when it comes to protecting our sexual purity. The Bible warns that the thought of lust is equally as damaging and sinful as the physical act (another whole blog post in and of itself). Drastic, but ever so true… In order to guard myself against sexual immorality, I must protect my eyes, my thoughts, and my heart. A difficult objective for anyone in a culture that tells me sex is really nothing more than a means of individuality and instant gratification for my using. Yet, I know it is SO MUCH more than that.
So much more could be added on this subject, but this is what God has led me to say. Reader, hear me out. Please don’t do as culture demands and give away such a precious gift so easily. Don’t listen to the lie that sex is not valuable or important. It is worth more than you could ever imagine. Wait and save it for that one person God has in mind for you. He promises he will bless you if you do!
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. (Ephesians 25:28)